tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5499217243284937366.post318456968240343890..comments2024-03-25T08:56:25.810-04:00Comments on TKIN: Philosopher Encounters Modern Life: The "Surrendered Person" As A Model For Us AllPatricia Marinohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16087880431696831634noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5499217243284937366.post-5023236003539011232016-12-12T12:05:40.863-05:002016-12-12T12:05:40.863-05:00i remember watching 20/20 when i was in my teens a...i remember watching 20/20 when i was in my teens and this subject was one of the sessions. i'm not sure that the word "surrendering" is appropriate because as you point out, those suggestions just seem like good advice for being a decent human being. <br /><br />to say that men need respect like oxygen is really ridiculous. EVERYBODY needs and wants respect from those around them: nobody wants to be (constantly) berated and disrespected without reason. i would assume that the author also would not appreciate being treated in the same manner as she was treating her husband. i think one could translate the concept of these recommendations to many relationship situations... take employer-employee ones: most people leave their job not b/c it doesn't pay well or that they hate the job... but they leave b/c of unbearable bosses. i'm not suggesting this is an absolute but i personally left the corporate world because i was being constantly being monitored by my boss, wasn't allowed to make any decisions and was constantly told (directly and indirectly) that i'm inapt. the whole thing was a complete reversal of everything i worked for and earned. previous to this (and when working with others, other than my boss), i was constantly praised by coworkers and managers alike, for my skills, work ethic, knowledge and ability to get 'er done.<br /><br />i too am irked that somehow, the idea of respect for others and the goal of being a decent human being got lost somewhere along the lines and now we seem to be reminded that we have to start acting the ideologies that our parents tried to instil.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10406528960358822727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5499217243284937366.post-37433081648918233342016-12-08T14:56:16.719-05:002016-12-08T14:56:16.719-05:00I agree that to refer to such behavior as 'sur...I agree that to refer to such behavior as 'surrendering' seems weird and 'surrendered wife' seems ethically and politically irresponsible. In fact, having been married for thirty-six years, it feels like my husband and I have both had to fight our way to becoming increasingly morally decent to one another. Becoming decent is just hard work. Loved your take on this article. <br />Teri Merrickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00096123482642634441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5499217243284937366.post-28414261819518333192016-12-06T16:44:51.939-05:002016-12-06T16:44:51.939-05:00The BBC article is like propaganda in the realm of...The BBC article is like propaganda in the realm of "how I gave my life to Jesus" by being obedient, unquestioning and smiling all the time. Your post is philosophical and respectful but I do feel that a book or article called the "Surrendered Wife" is pandering to a system where half the population are silence and invisible. I can almost hear the old priest telling the battered wife to go home and please her husband. Why was that title used? For whose sake?Janet Vickershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01064735501871939254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5499217243284937366.post-13835452025931577302016-12-06T12:48:10.410-05:002016-12-06T12:48:10.410-05:00Here, Here!!Here, Here!!Tanner Librarianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06717451801981980840noreply@blogger.com