tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5499217243284937366.post5326513154616805524..comments2024-03-25T08:56:25.810-04:00Comments on TKIN: Philosopher Encounters Modern Life: The Lost Art Of Desire ManagementPatricia Marinohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16087880431696831634noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5499217243284937366.post-86004424383004792302010-03-07T12:06:06.826-05:002010-03-07T12:06:06.826-05:00I'm sure it does still exist, and yeah, that i...I'm sure it does still exist, and yeah, that is roughly what I am getting at. I'm not sure "expectations" is what matters most; it seems to me the method of desire-management isn't so much the threat of doom if you go out of the grooves, it's more, once you're in the grooves, you just want certain sorts of things. <br /><br />Like France and food. When I'm in France, I fall into the French food grooves: I eat certain things at certain times; I don't snack much. <br /><br />It's not just you'll feel like a loser eating candy in the middle of the day (though that is true too); it's partly that the ambiance, the setting, the available alternatives, and the habits of others work together to make you think, "Oh, now it's time for a Nicoise salad and then an espresso." If you fall into the grooves, you tend to want what the grooves tell you to want.Patricia Marinohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16087880431696831634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5499217243284937366.post-16722642451065254502010-03-06T13:18:18.860-05:002010-03-06T13:18:18.860-05:00Do you think that the desire management culture mi...Do you think that the desire management culture might still exist in certain circles? I have friends, for example, who grew up more wealthy, or bourgeois, or something than me, who seem to have a much stronger set of expectations placed on them. To them, sometimes, the expectations are stifling, but I tend to idealize them as guideposts, or maps, or sort of instructions on life (marriage, kids, jobs &c). Sometimes I feel like this about certain religious or cultural people too. I'm not sure if this resonates with what you're getting at regarding the Victorians.Danielhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13099461086991460463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5499217243284937366.post-42540752872690894882010-03-01T05:21:43.704-05:002010-03-01T05:21:43.704-05:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5499217243284937366.post-83305880225194748592010-02-27T19:30:12.262-05:002010-02-27T19:30:12.262-05:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.オテモヤンhttp://e-nixi.com/blog/noreply@blogger.com